The Childless Mother

I wrote this poem for not only myself, but for all of the sweet mamas out there that have experienced the loss of a child. It seems that after the dust settles and life "moves on" the childless mother is often forgotten about. People don't bring up the loss for fear of hurting their feelings, when in reality NOT talking about their child hurts them much more deeply. To all of my fellow childless mothers out there, I see you. 💓💓💓

The Childless Mother

The childless mother is seldom spoken of, yet so very alive, living before your own covered eyes.

She weeps and mourns with a heart fully torn, yet smiles as you pass by.

Often forgotten, she feels so broken, unable to answer the “why.”

The childless mother will never feel whole again, a part of her died when her child was taken, she cannot face a day without wanting her child by her side. 

The childless mother is a wonder to behold, her strength and perseverance have allowed her to survive, when the only thing she wanted to do was curl up and die. 

The childless mother is seldom remembered, it’s easier for people to not engage, but her pain is real, it is physical, emotional, spiritual, and leaves her feeling as though her whole body has been dismembered. 

The childless mother’s heart lives outside of her body, never again to be in one piece. Her pain is intense and though, over time, it may become less, she is aware that it will never fully cease. 

The childless mother cries in the dark, afraid to bring her pain into the light. Not wanting to burden others or be a bother, she gets up each morning through sheer will, though it takes all of her might. 

She does not want to exist, feeling as if there is no point now that her child is gone, but she must continue on, knowing that her child would want her to be strong. 

The childless mother wants you to know not talking about her child is much more painful to her than being reminded of her sweet babe. Talk to her about the memories, the good things, remind her that she is not alone, it is ok if she cries, she would have anyway.

Her biggest fear is “who will remember,” and that is a pain much too great to bear. 

So when you see the childless mother, do not move on and treat her as you would any other. Reach out, be a light, remember her child and speak of them often. Treat her with care and compassion, but never forget the pain she has, after all it is much less of a burden to bear, when you know you are surrounded by others who care.